LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP

Love symbols

2010-02-05T05:46:00.001-08:00

Love symbols, the very word that reminds us of shape of heart. Thus, love symbols are great way in expressing your love. Other than heart shape, there are series of love symbols are available. There is one interesting aspect about the love symbols that you should know. Every civilization and country has its own types of love symbols and they carry significant meaning of their own. Thus, symbols can say a lot about your feelings and can convey your message to the special person of your life.
Different types of love symbols

Apple: Apple is not only symbolizes love, but also stands for fertility and abundance. There are series of stories one can find apple played a pivotal role in making the love bloom. The Greek god of wine, Dinoysus once offered apple to Aphrodite to woo and win her love. The apple also signifies feminine beauty and love. In China, apple is a symbol for adoration and peace.

Cupid: Cupid is a Greek word that means desire. Many times cupid are shown blindfolded in famous paintings and art that symbolizes the blindness that people suffer when they are in love.Cupid struck lovers go crazy in love. Ever wondered why people fall in love? What makes them fall in love with each other? There’s a reason behind everyone falling in love and they say it’s Cupid, the mischievous son of the Goddess of Love, Venus. Venus is responsible for making two people fall in love. Legend says when someone gets hit by Cupid's arrow then they fall in love with the person he/she sees first.
During the Valentine’s Day, beautiful cupid centerpieces and showpieces are commonly gifted by the lovers to each other. Cupid painting, greeting cards, wallpapers, wallpapers and screensavers are popular with love mates.
Harp: Harp is one of oldest musical instruments and thus symbolizes love equal to poetry, art and music. The harp also stands for mythical connection of Celtic civilization that represents a bridge between earth and the heaven. Similarly, in Iceland and Norway, the strings of the harp represent ladder that symbolizing the elevated states of love and path showing the way to paradise.
Heart: It is the most common and most widely recognized symbol of love. The heart is considered as the sole “culprit” when people fall in love. Love blooms when two hearts meet. It’s the pure magic of love that captivates hearts and love happens at first sight. In the game of love it’s only the heart that rules. We are the puppets and we do exactly what our heart says. Musical Hearts, greeting cards featuring hearts and love poems describing feelings of your heart are popular amongst love couples. Over the decade hearts have inspired poets and writers to write memorable pieces of art on it. Undoubtedly heart pierced by the cupid's arrow is one the most famous and recognizable valentine's symbols.
Rose:You say ‘I Love You’ and the picture of a boy giving red rose to a girl comes in our mind. Love is synonymous to red roses. Roses are the ultimate form of expression of love. Proposals and love affairs are incomplete without the exchange of red roses. Rose is said to be the queen of flowers. It symbolizes peace, love and forgiveness. Valentine's Day, the day of love, celebrated on 14th February, is the perfect time to send roses and romantic gifts to your loved ones. Roses come in 72 different colors and each color of rose expresses different emotions. Yellow rose is for friendship, white rose is for peace. Black roses mean farewell. Pink roses mean friendship or sweetheart. Interestingly red rose is for love. On the Valentine’s Day the importance of the red rose is evident when you see young lover flocking the florists shop to buy flowers and give it to their sweetheart. You too be one of those mad lovers and delight your sweetheart with bouquet of red rose.
Love Knot:Young women in strict Muslim households used to send their pledges of love to young men through messages woven through the knots of a carpet in an Arab tradition. This tradition of sending messages through the knots gave birth to the concept of love knots that continues to this day.\
Love Birds and Doves:It’s commonly believed that on the Valentine’s Day, birds found their mates. Doves signify purity, meekness and innocence. Love birds and doves are the endearing symbols of the spirit of the Valentine’s Day. Beautiful centerpieces of these two birds made of glasses and ceramics adorn gift shops. They make popular Valentine day gifts celebrating the essence of love.

Tips to use love symbols

Choosing the right love symbol is very important. Love symbols helps in assisting to focus on the energy. Thus, you must choose love symbols to allow the opportunities in your favor.

Since, love symbols are plenty so choose a love symbol that best expresses with you.
Place the image in a position, where you can see it often. This will help you to understand the energy and the link involved to it. If possible meditate with the symbol to get deep into it.
Appeal to the symbol every time before you to sleep and after you wake up. In fact it would be good if you make daily entries of your feelings that comes up in your heart and mind. Other than symbols if any image comes to your mind try to draw a picture of that or write a description of the image.
The last, but not the least try to remain positive on your idea of love and trust on beauty and purity of love

Heartbreak Quotes

2007-10-26T11:34:00.001-07:00

You never know what you have until you lose it, and once you lose it, you can never get it back.

My heart was taken by you... broken by you... and now it is in pieces because of you.

Love is like falling down... in the end you're left hurt, scarred, and with a memory of it forever.

You're the one who broke my heart, you're the reason my world fell apart, you're the one who made me cry, yet I'm still in love with you and I don't know why.

A million words would not bring you back, I know because I've tried, neither would a million tears, I know I've cried.

Wanting him is hard to forget, loving him is hard to regret, losing him is hard to accept, but even with all the hurt I've felt, letting go is the most painful yet.

Sometimes the memories are worth the pain.

Sometime you just have to hold your head up high, blink away the tears and say good-bye.

For a few minutes you made me feel as though I actually meant something to someone.

We are afraid to care to much, for fear that the other person does not care at all.

People think it is holding on that makes you stronger, but sometimes it's letting go.

I made a choice to finally let go, because I can't stand the pain, it's time for my last tear to fall and smile again.

I cried today... not because I miss you... or even wanted you... but because I realized I'm gonna be all right without you.

I wish he meant it when he kissed me cause then I could look back and see someone who loved me but I can only go back and see someone who used me.

You always say you hate to see me hurt, and you hate to see me cry. So all those times that you hurt me, did you close your eyes?

Sad isn't it? How no matter what you do or say to me... when you come running back... when you need me again... I'll be here... right here waiting for you, I'll take you back... no questions asked. Sad isn't it?

So... from now on... when you think of me... just remember that I could've been the best thing you ever had.

Why did I break up with him? Well ,it's like, once I sat down and looked at the situation, all the pieces lying on the floor, it just wasn't a puzzle anymore. None of the pieces fit together. And even if I tried really hard, the pieces, well they were two different puzzles. That's why I did it, he needs to understand that.

You hurt me more then I deserve, how can you be so cruel? I love you more then you deserve, why am I such a fool?

You asked me what was wrong, I smiled and said nothing, when you turned around and a tear came down and I whispered to myself... everything is.

You wonder why I don't talk to you anymore and please believe me when I say it's not that I don't want to, it's just that everything I want to say I can't tell you anymore.

I don't know which I would rather believe... that you never did care or that you eventually stopped.

Hold my hand, just one more time, so I can remind myself why it is that I can't get over you.

I think its time I let you go... and that is hard to do because part of me will be in love with you for the rest of my life.

While I was holding on all you did was let go.

Sometimes it's better to be alone. No one can hurt you that way.

I just wonder how many people never get the one they want, but end up with the one they're supposed to have.

The hardest thing about growing up is that you have to do what is right for you even if it means breaking someone's heart. Including your own.

All I'm asking for is one night together. Just you and me. All alone. And if you can honestly say you don't feel anything for me after that night, I will finally let you go.

Sometimes all you need is a broken heart to realize that something even better is right in front of our eyes, just waiting to be found.

Of course, you're going to get your heart broken. And it isn't just going to happen once, but a lot. That's just part of growing up, and it makes you stronger. Then you can handle it better next time. You may not get through it yourself, but your friends will help you through it. And you'll be a stronger person because of it. Then one day someone will come along, and it'll all pay off and no one will ever break your heart again.

No one can promise they'll never hurt you because at one time or another, it will happen. The real promise is if the time you spend together will be worth the pain in the end.

The worst feeling in the world is knowing you've been used and lied to.

Frustrated because I can't tell if it's real. Mad because I don't know how you feel. Upset because we can't make it right. Sad because I need you day and night. Angry because you won't take my hand. Aggravated because you don't understand. Disappointed because we can't be together, but still I'll love you forever.

Maybe they are right. Maybe I did get my hopes up too high. Maybe I was in over my head. Maybe I am the stupid one for ever thinking that you loved me, but maybe, just maybe, I am tired of being alone.

Every time I see him all cool, calm and collected, I lose my breath, my heart starts pounding, and I am painfully aware that I am not over him and he is over me.

I don't know which is worse, being the one with the broken heart or being the person that breaks the hearts.

It's not that we aren't meant to be together, I think that we're just not ready for forever.

You always have an out. An exit strategy to make sure you don't get hurt. You always walk always. You walk away before they can walk away from you.

Today was just one of those days where everything I did reminded me of you and every song I heard somehow related to you. I hate days like today, because they remind me of the one thing I dont have.

There were reasons we met, reasons for the good times and reasons for the bad times, and most importantly a reason to end. We have more to learn, more to experience and more loving to do in this lifetime.

Somehow I know we'll meet again, not quite sure where and not sure when, your in my heart so until then good-bye.

Broken heart again. Another lesson learned. Better know your friends. Or you will get burned.

This time it's over I'm keeping my heart, I'm gonna be strong and not fall apart... it'll get better, I'll no longer cry... in a couple of weeks I won't want to die, I won't want to go back. I'll be able to sleep, it won't hurt so bad and it won't hurt so deep!

I would like to thank you, for showing me a part of myself that I have never seen. Yeah we were young and dumb, but it still was fun and I guess these things just tend to fall apart and I hope you feel the same.

Sometimes we must get hurt in order to grow; we must fail in order to know. Sometimes our vision only clears after our eyes are washed away with tears.

I know I'm not completely over him. He still crosses my mind several times a day, but with each one of those times, a feeling of contempt also passes through my heart. Maybe if this happens enough, my heart will become completely hardened to him, and I'll get to the point where he doesn't affect me anymore.---Beth_Lynn_14

Walk home drowning these memories in the rain biting my lip to transfer this pain, your gone and I'm still going through withdrawals, next time around I'll build a stronger wall.

I'm afraid to give you my all, I'm afraid to love you completely. What if behind your beautiful face and kind words you are just bribing me. Maybe you are just reeling me in until you turn around and drop me. I'd fall so far and never be able to recover, I wish I could see the ending sometimes. I would know if I should hold on to you and keep going or just let it all end before I get up too high.--- samrushing

I'm going to stay with you because you need a friend, but thats all I'm going to be. No more sex, no more hands in places they shouldn't be, no more giving you my heart so you can stamp all over it.

I miss all the little things. Like him driving with his hand resting on my knee and the way we'd share a big gooey ice cream. But I especially miss the hot nights in those motel rooms when he was all around me, the taste, and the scent and the feel of him. And I'd fall asleep in his arms, with the sound of his heartbeat being the last thing I heard before going to sleep. I ache with longing.

You and me are inevitable, you're all that makes me happy but if you break my heart again, I'll kill you.

Love hurts. I say that because I know. Love is... or was amazing. It's an incredible feeling to know what he's going to say. It's more incredible the way he has me on the edge of my seat because he's so completely random, I never know what's coming next. It's hard to explain, but he filled some void in me, and now, without him, I'm missing something again. I wonder if it will ever truly, whole heartedly be filled again. I just don't want to know what it's like to hurt any more...

I've been laying here all night, listening to the rain. Talking to my heart and trying to explain. Why sometimes I catch myself wondering what might have been. Yes I do think about you, every now and then.

I'm not afraid of heights, I'm afraid of falling. I'm not scared of the dark, I'm scared of what's in it. I'm not afraid of love, I'm afraid of not being loved back.

In this weird twisted way, I know you miss me liking you, not because I want to believe it's true, but because you'll never find a girl that can put up with you like I did; you'll never find a girl who will care as much as I did, because no one will waste all there love on someone like you, like I did.

I didn't ask for it to be over, but then again, I didn't ask for it to begin. For that's the way it is with life, as some of the most beautiful days come completely by chance. But even the most beautiful days eventually have their sunsets.

I wish I saved all the tears I cried for you so I could fucking drown you in them.

I tried to hold onto what we had, but you didn't even make an effort. You lied you cheated and left me to cry all alone once again. And when I return looking more beautiful and confident than ever before all I want you to realize is what you had and what you will never have again. --- birdie565

It's amazing after all we've been through the good times and the bad how we can walk past each other and pretend like it never happened give each other an awkward smile and move on.

Perhaps I saw what I wanted to see in him and made him to be more than he was.

The tough thing about following you heart is that people forget to mention that sometimes the heart takes you to places you shouldn't be. Places that are scary as they are exciting and as dangerous as they are alluring. Sometimes your heart cannot take you to places that lead to happy ending. That's not even the difficult part; the difficult part is when you follow your heart, you leave normal; you go into the unknown and once you do you can never go back.

Am I mad at you? That's your main concern after shattering my whole world? Mad for what? Breaking my heart? Or for all the lies? Maybe for letting me put all my trust in you only to be betrayed? How about the fact you didn't even have the decency to tell me to my face? Or the way you think it's crazy that I'm crying over it cause to you breaking up is no big deal. Am I mad at you?... no. More like crushed... did I ever really know you?

It's really painful to say goodbye to someone that you don't want to let go but its even more painful to ask someone to stay if they never wanted to stay.

In love you find the oddest combinations; materialistic people find themselves in love with idealists; clingers fall in love with players; homebodies capture and try to smother butterflies. It it wasn't so serious we could laugh at it.

I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mending whole was good as new. What is broken is broken - and I'd rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken places as long as I lived.

A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.

You didn't intentionally break my heart, you even said you were sorry, but I cried anyway... I know the truth that you're to scared to admit, you're with her, but when you look at me, you can't even remember her name...

I'm so paranoid of getting hurt. I am always getting my heart broken over and over. My heart has so many scars and bruises all over it. I don't know how much just one heart can
take really, and I don't really want to find out either.

Love is a perky elf dancing a merry little jig and then suddenly he turns on you with a miniature machine gun.

After a while, you learn the difference between holding a hand, and falling in love. You'll learn kisses don't always mean something. Promises can be broken just as easily as they were made, and as hard as it is to believe, sometimes goodbyes are forever.

Life doesn't hurt until you have time to yourself to think about how things have changed, who you've lost along the way, and how much of it is your fault.

Let me ruin your life, let me break your heart, then I'll ask you why we can't be friends. Let me rip your world into little pieces, let me destroy who you thought you were, and then I'll ask if we can be friends.

I just want someone to come up to me and kiss me and tell me that they're in love with me. I don't just want it though. I need it. I'm desperate for it.

It's like once you've been hurt, you're so scared to get attached again. you have this fear that every person you start to fall for, is just going to break your heart again.

If you don't love me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best.

Just let me ask you something...if I happen to walk out of this room right now and never come back, and just forget everything and leave it all behind would you be okay with that? Because I have 5 steps til I close this door and you have 5 seconds to make up your mind...starting now...

Make me stay. Say something sweet and tender and untrue and make me stay.

The hardest thing about knowing you don't love me
is that you spent so much time pretending that you did.

Like being in love there must be a corresponding painful side like losing in love, it's just a fact of life. --- Daria

If I asked him, would he even know the color of my eyes?

There's only one "reason" a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.

You really know you love someone when all you want is for them to be happy, even if that means that you are not a part of it.

It's not my fault if I can't help looking at you. It's not my fault if I can't stop calling you. It's not my fault I do like you. My only mistake was to fall to much in love with you.

Sometimes - no matter how long, or how much you love someone, they will never love you back and somehow you have to learn to be okay with that.

If your gonna make me cry, at least be there to wipe away the tears.

I'm holding on to something that used to be there hoping it will come back, knowing it won't.

I want you to know that you will never find another girl that will put up with as much crap as I do and enjoy it. You will never find another girl that will put up with you and love you the way I do. Just so you know.

There's always that one special person that no matter what they do to you, you just cant let them go.

At first, I cried because I didn't have you why do I still cry now that I do?

How could you make me love you and then not be there to love me back?

I sit here and think about everything that happened this past week and not a single tear runs down my cheek. Maybe its because I'm too hurt to cry, or maybe I'm just to mad at you.

Maybe just maybe its my hearts way of telling me this isn't over yet.

What do you do when the only person who can stop your tears is the one making you cry.

I'd like to think I'll be happy again, but I really need to just stop and cry now, and sometimes I wish I could just scream at you, and show you what you do to me.

And even though you lied, and even though you pretended to care I can't seem to get you out of my mind and even though it seems like I should be over you, with every tear that falls, it reminds me of how much I am still in love with you.

Have you ever hated somebody so much that you wish they would just leave and never come back but yet, loved them so much, you knew youd die if they did?

I've been through this pain before I've even cried these tears before but to get you back, I'd go through so much more.

I'm going to smile like nothings wrong, talk like everythings perfect, act like its just a dream and pretend that he's not hurting me.

The truth of the matter is, I still have feelings for you. And no matter how many times I tell myself that I'm better off with out you, a part of me just won't let go.

I know I made a lot of stupid mistakes in my life, but the worst one was thinking the person who hurt me the most wouldn't hurt me again.

I feel like I am sitting in a room full of people that I love, and you know what, they just don't care that I love them. They don't care whether or not I live or die. To them I'm just another girl, just another stranger. To me, they are my best friends, the only people I have left.

I'm scared to fall in love, scared to fall fast, because every time I fall in love, it never seems to last.

You're the reason I live and the reason I die, you're the reason

I smile yet break down and cry, you're the reason I keep going and the reason I fall, cause without you in my life I'm nothing at all.

I have waited for you for 2 years and I will wait for you for the rest of my life. Even if that means I have to give you up for the rest of my life, I will wait for you. I love you that much and nothing will ever change that.

I'm gonna smile, because I wanna make you happy, laugh, so you won't see me cry. I'm gonna let you go in style, and even if it kills me, I'm gonna smile.

Love? It's kind of complicated, but I'll tell you this the second you're willing to make yourself miserable to make someone else happy, that's love right there.

You fuck me, then stub me. You love me, you hate me. You show me a sensitive side, then you turn into a total asshole. Is this a pretty accurate description of our relationship. (This was just how me and my now ex boyfriend were.)

You asked me what was wrong, I smiled and said nothing, when you turned around and a tear came down and I whispered to myself everything is.

I am in love with the man I can't have and I have the man I can't love.

I would have followed him to hell if he asked me to and with all he put me through, maybe I did.

I used to think that if I loved you enough you would realize it and love me back, but I can only love so much for so long.

Do I really love him or am I addicted to the pain of wanting something I can't have.

I love you yet I hate you its like I want to throw you off a cliff and then run really fast to the bottom and catch you. (this is me and my friend Kevin)

I don't know which is worse, keeping your love for someone a secret or telling them and risk being rejected.

I don't know which is worse, loving someone knowing its going to cause you pain or being in pain because you can't love

someone.

It hurts to realize that them people you thought you'd love for life don't love you as much as you thought they did and can do without you as if they never knew you at all.

It seems to me that the harder I try the harder I fall.

Ever notice that the people who hurt you the most are the ones you tend to love more.

It's funny the way you can get use to the tears and the pain.

No more crying, I can't cry anymore. Don't take my hand this time. Just go please and don't look back, because I know if you did, I'd come running back to you and I can't do that.

I'm glad you're happy. I can't say that I'm completely happy for you but I guess that's just a part of life, I'll always have feelings for you but the rest of the world is forcing me to move on.

I would rather leave now still loving you then to leave later hating you.

I hate the way I could never hate you.

I want to cry, I really do, but I guess I just don't want to give you the satisfaction of knowing that you hurt me once again.

I remember when I still believed the things you said.

You can't just cling on to something because it's familiar.

Difficult or easy, pleasant or bitter, you are the same you; I cannot live, with or without you.

This time its over I'm keeping my heart, I'm gonna be strong and not fall apart it'll get better, I'll no longer cryin a couple of weeks I won't want to die, I won't want to go back. I'll be able to sleep, it won't hurt so bad and it won't hurt so deep!

It hurts to see someone you love ignoring you, it also hurts to see that he doesn't feel your love. But it hurts even more to

know that he loves you too, and just doesn't want you to know.

Love is when someone hurts you. And you get so mad but you don't yell at them because you know it would hurt their feelings.

I'd rather be your lover then your friend, but I'd rather be your friend then your nobody.

I've convinced everyone else that I don't like you and that I don't love you anymore. Now all I need to do is convince myself.

To let go of someone doesn't mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his own happiness without expecting him to come back.

I know you never meant to do everything you put me through its okay I forgive you.

I never regretted telling you I liked you, I only regretted never hearing what you really thought of me.

You make it really hard to love you sometimes.

Each move I made in his direction just seemed to pave my way faster to hell.

If you love me as much as you say you do then you'll leave.

If you think you've found that one that you really love... make sure they love you back.

Don't hate me. Don't regret me. Don't even forget me.

Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you.

It's hard to love someone who's in love with someone else, you have to ignore the pain and swallow your pride. Just to be a friend... but that's all worth it because sometimes friendship last longer than love.

I haven't been around but that doesn't mean I stopped loving you.

I never stopped loving you. Even when I was acting crazy, I loved you. I've tried to show you in a million ways but nothing ever got through.

I cut to prove to you that you are not the only one that can hurt me.

To me, love is having your head tell you to slap him but all you wanna do is look into his eyes and smile.

I wish I saved all the tears I cried for you so I could fucking drown you in them.

Sometimes I love you, Sometimes you make me blue, Sometimes I feel good, At times I feel used. Loving you darling makes me so confused.--- Alicia Keys

Do you want to know what my problem is? I will tell you what my problem is, I LOVE YOU I love your name, I love the way you look at me, I love your gorgeous smile, I love the way you walk, I love your beautiful eyes, I love what you look like when you are asleep, I love the sound of your laugh, to hear your voice fills my entire heart with an indescribable feeling. I love the way I can be having the worst day of my life and seeing you completely changes my mood. I love how when you touch me I

get weak, that is my problem...

Sometimes I hope we're still friends when I get married. I hope that I'll invite you to the wedding and you'll come. Then you'll see me as the happiest girl in the world. You'll see me with a guy that treats me right and loves me more than himself. You'll see all that you could've had and you'll regret letting me go.

But the thing that I want you to see the most is that I survived without you.

You know what? You should break up with me for her. You should go out with anyone your heart desires because, eventually, I know what will happen. See, you're gonna be with all those other girls, but none of those girls are gonna be like me. I'm different than all of them. You're going to realize that

I'm the one you're meant for and you're going to come back to me. So sure, break up with me now, but I'm telling you, you'll be back. You'll be back when you realize that you broke up with the one girl who was meant to be with you. But see, the thing is, you just better hope the girl is still there.

I don't think I ever felt that good and that bad at the same time in my life.

Sometimes I may hate you, but I'll always love you. -Daria

I have been thinking a lot about growing up, and all of the relationships and broken hearts we go through. I always wonder how many times I said "I love you" to someone and

knew I didn’t mean it. It makes me think about all of the people that have said they love me and didn’t mean it as well, and I get really pissed off, because I hate when people lie. I mean, if they were lying to get in my pants, that is one thing, but just for the sake of dragging this heart through the mud. I don’t think anyone has ever used me for my body, and that really, really hurts. It really does. I want to be a booty call.

Isn’t that what we all want out of life; to be someone’s "go to" sex slave? I forgot what I was talking about. Oh yeah, Love. Love sucks.--- Jaret

Love is putting up with someone's bad qualities because they somehow complete you.

I begin to hate you for your face and not just the things you do.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. ---Sex and the City

Don't stay because you think "it will get better". You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. --- Sex in the City

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. --- Sex in the City

There's only one "reason" a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.

Relationships are very simple. There are only two things that can happen. You either get married or your break up.

I may hate myself in the morning But I'm gonna love you tonight.

Life is for having fun. Don't be stupid and waste it on some guy/girl who is gonna act like he/she hates you tomorrow. Never waste it on some one who doesn't want their friends to know they're in love with you. Don't give that person the rest of you tears or a month or a year of your life when he/she treats you badly and doesn't mind to make you cry. Every person deserves some one who wants to brag about them. Every person deserves some one who makes them smile and laugh at their worst moments. We all deserve at least that.

Relationships are like glasses. If they break, let them stay broken, you'll only hurt yourself trying to fix it. At least the pieces still remain.

I'm mad at myself, not you. I'm mad for always being nice, always apologizing for things I didn't do, for getting attached, for making you my life, depending on you, wasting my time on you, thinking about you, following you, changing for you, forgiving you, wishing for you, dreaming of you, and most of all... for not hating you which I know I should... but I can't.

This is for the broken hearted. I know how you feel. Empty, betrayed, and no happiness whatsoever. You don't want to laugh, because you know it's not going to help, but you don't want to cry, because it will just make you feel worse. You feel like your heart is falling apart, but not only that, but you know soon your life is going to feel like it's falling apart too. You don't think it will ever end, and no matter what this person has done to you, it feels impossible to stop loving them. And everyone wonders why if they have hurt you so much, then why do you still love them. That's the confusing part, you don't know why, you just do, and the people who hurt you the most, and normally the ones you love the most. And then, after a few weeks, you finally feel a sense of relief, like you're getting happy again, but you know inside that you're just going into denial. And after a few more weeks, you're back to where you were an empty soul and teary eyes. You thought you got over them, but really, you just stopped showing it. And you can't help but to show it again. It leaves deep scars on your heart that are there forever. And no one understands how you feel, and how deep you are hurt, no matter who they are, because it hasn't happened to them And even if it has, every broken heart is different. They don't know the true pain you feel and carry each and everyday now, so you learn that basically you are alone with all this. And the feeling starts to overwhelm you, and suddenly you just break down, right there, because you know you've had enough, the tears just instantly start flowing, and you're to the point where you don't care who see's. Because you've spent so many nights lying awake in bed, and so many days being haunted by the scars and fear of rejection. And in the midst of all these tears, you know that its not helping any, and it's not going to bring them back, if you ever even had them in the first place. After about a million tears have been cried, you finally pull yourself back together and keep going. Your throat starts to clench and your eyes burn with the tears you are trying to hold back. Everyone says, "It will be okay…” But you know it won't. And that’s the truth, it won’t. And you look back on all of the hurt you had from this, and you realize that people are horrible. You're still hurt, but you've learned to hide it so that everyone thinks you are okay. So now every time you see this person, you know you still love them, and you feel a slight tingle in your heart yearning for them to love you, screaming out, but for some reason they don't hear it. And then you sit back and wonder how one person could have caused all of this...

I'm not gonna give a fuck anymore... If you hurt me, I'm gonna hurt you. That's how it's gonna be from now on...

Life sucks a lot of the time, huh? But, ya know, if you can get through a heartbreak, you can get through almost anything.

I can't stop thinking about him. That has to tell you something. I can't get him out of my head. And quite frankly, I don't even want to try. --- lyssy

Why do we fall for someone, who really isn't for us?... should we blame ourselves for falling the wrong one. Or... should we blame the one we fell for, because... they made us believe that they are the right one for us?!

He's lost the one girl who thought nothing was wrong with him.

If you dress nicely, he says you're a snob. If you dress sexy, he says you're a slut. If you argue with him, he says you're stubborn. If you're quiet, he says you're stupid. If you call him, he says you're needy and clingy. If he calls you, he says you should be grateful. If you don't love him, he'll try to win you. If you love him, he'll leave you. If you don't fuck him, he'll say you don't love him. If you do, he'll say you're easy. If you tell him your problems, he'll say you're irritating. If you don't , he'll say you don't trust him. If you lecture him, he'll say you're bitchy. If he lectures you, it's because he "cares". If you break a promise, you can't be trusted. If he breaks it, he had to. If you cheat, he'll expect it to be over. If he cheats, he expects to be given another chance either way.

You only love him because you fear that he just might be the only one that will ever love you.

It's not that I still love him, because I don't, it's just that I still worry about his stupidity.

I know you never meant to do everything you put me through its okay I forgive you.

Sometimes things can seem so perfect, and then in a split second. It all comes and blows back up in your face, making you remember, that nothing ever works out for you. Something always fucks up your "perfect thing". --- mangledxdreams

Nothings gonna change the way I feel and you know that I'm gonna love you still. Please don’t turn your back, I cant believe it's hard just to talk to you, but you don't understand. Because we're not together now, and I want to be with you. I'm sorry I can't just be friends. Am I too late, or do I have a chance? I'm sorry... I can't just be friends.

I lay there at night, trying to fall asleep
But each time I close my eyes
Memories of you flash through my mind
But then I open my eyes
and welcome myself back to reality
Because I know now, you and I weren't ever
really meant to be.

There will always be faces you can never look at without emotion and there are names you can never hear spoken without that same old feelings returning. Just when you think you can move on, you'll remember all the reasons why you held on so long.

The only thing worse than a broken heart is knowing you'd give him another chance.

I don't understand why I let myself stay with you, after all the lies and all the tears cried. What makes you so fucking special?

Why do I waste my time? Why is it that you're so damn irreplaceable?

Tell me what I have to do tonight
'Cause I'd do anything to make it right
Let's be us again
I'm sorry for the way I lost my head
I don't know why I said the things I said
Let's be us again
Here I stand
With everything to lose
And all I know is I don't want to ever see the end
Baby please, I'm reaching out for you
Won't you open up your heart and let me come back in.

One day you'll look back and think... damn! that girl really did love me...

Don't wanna do it today There's a part of me that wishes I could just forget But I haven't found the mercy yet. I'll forgive you tomorrow if the sun doesn't shine Let you back into my life when the oceans are dry Take you back when every shade of the rainbow turns gray But I just can't do it today --- Gary Allan

Too often we don't realize what we have until it's gone... too often we wait too long to say "I'm sorry, I was wrong"

There's nothing scarier then getting what you want, cause that's when you really have something to lose.

I'm mad at myself for crying, I don't even remember the reason but the tears keep flowing and they just wont stop I'm supposed to be strong but everything's so wrong.

Maybe sometimes you just have to say what's in your heart, not just what you think someone wants to hear.

I'm sorry that I'm not the one you wanted that I made your life fucked up its not telling you how I feel that scares me. Its what you'll say back that does.

Learn from your past, move on, grow stronger. People are fake, but let your trust last longer. Do what you got to do, but always stay true, and never let anyone get the best of you.

I think it's time that I let you go. And it's really hard for me to do because I know that there's a part of me that will be in love with you for the rest of my life. But this while running in place and day dreaming is just not healthy for either of us. --- Dawson's Creek

Not everything's gonna be picture perfect... Things sometimes take time and have rough times to get through... Before you can get there but if you give up on things you want, everything you've gone through ends up being completely worthless.

If one day you realize that I haven't talked to you in a while it's not because I don't care anymore it's because you pushed me away and just left me there...

The higher you build the walls around your heart, the harder you fall when someone tears them down.

I want to be the one - I want to be the person that touches your heart and makes it skip a beat - I want to be that person whose arms make you just melt - I want to be the person that your destined to be with.

Just hit play and watch my life fall apart.

I can't help myself; I don't want anyone else.

You are unmistaken ably my first love. Every guy I am with for the rest of my life will be compared to you.

Hold me when I cry, sleep with me on my drenched pillow, just for one night.

I know it's hard to love me, but couldn't you please just try anyway?

Time and time again, I forgave you. I've forgiven you for things that I swore to myself I'd never forgive someone for... and here you are, still hurting me, and I still forgave you..

She's smiling... but she doesn't mean it. She misses how they use to be... she misses how it was so real how they cared for each other without end but most of all, she misses him always being there and telling her everything will be okay because she need's that now, more then ever. She's sick of feeling like something's missing.

And these break up songs Are making sense again And I really wish they didn't.

For him I'd smile when he's happy kiss him when he's sad... try to be the perfect girl and calm him when he's mad hold his hand to make him strong and say he's right when I know he's wrong.

Quotations for Broken Hearts

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Giving up doesn't always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go. ~Author Unknown

God is closest to those with broken hearts. ~Jewish Saying

Sometimes, when one person is missing, the whole world seems depopulated. ~Lamartine

When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart has been sent to heal. ~Author Unknown

The best way to mend a broken heart is time and girlfriends. ~Gwyneth Paltrow

I don't know why they call it heartbreak. It feels like every other part of my body is broken too. ~Missy Altijd

In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together. ~Author Unknown

Love is like a puzzle. When you're in love, all the pieces fit but when your heart gets broken, it takes a while to get everything back together. ~Author Unknown

You flew off with the wings of my heart and left me flightless. ~Stelle Atwater

Maybe part of loving is learning to let go. ~From the television show The Wonder Years

I prithee send me back my heart,
Since I cannot have thine;
For if from yours you will not part,
Why, then, shouldst thou have mine?
~John Suckling

As soon as forever is through, I'll be over you. ~Toto

Let your tears come. Let them water your soul. ~Eileen Mayhew

It's so curious: one can resist tears and 'behave' very well in the hardest hours of grief. But then someone makes you a friendly sign behind a window, or one notices that a flower that was in bud only yesterday has suddenly blossomed, or a letter slips from a drawer... and everything collapses. ~Colette

The heart is the only broken instrument that works. ~T.E. Kalem

Sometimes I wish I were a little kid again, skinned knees are easier to fix than broken hearts. ~Author Unknown

God can heal a broken heart, but He has to have all the pieces. ~Author Unknown

What is the opposite of two? A lonely me, a lonely you. ~Richard Wilbur

Sadness flies away on the wings of time. ~Jean de La Fontaine

If we must part forever,
Give me but one kind word to think upon,
And please myself with, while my heart's breaking.
~Thomas Otway

Have you ever been hurt and the place tries to heal a bit, and you just pull the scar off of it over and over again. ~Rosa Parks

With what a deep devotedness of woe
I wept thy absence - o'er and o'er again
Thinking of thee, still thee, till thought grew pain,
And memory, like a drop that, night and day,
Falls cold and ceaseless, wore my heart away!
~Thomas Moore

Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell. ~Edna St. Vincent Millay

We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. ~Kenji Miyazawa

If you're going through hell, keep going. ~Winston Churchill

You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present. ~Jan Glidewell

There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go. ~Author Unknown

Let your joy scream across the pain. ~Ezbeth Wilder

Invisible tears are the hardest to wipe away. Just let it out, my friend. ~Adabella Radici

You left, and my heart is a ceaseless sermon of loneliness. ~Jaesse Tyler

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. ~M. Kathleen Casey

I expanded with the joy of your love and presence but now that you're gone I just feel bloated. ~Carrie Latet

The robbed that smiles, steals something from the thief. ~William Shakespeare, Othello

Turn your wounds into wisdom. ~Oprah Winfrey

Don't cry when the sun is gone, because the tears won't let you see the stars. ~Violeta Parra

They say that time heals all wounds but all it's done so far is give me more time to think about how much I miss you. ~Ezbeth Wilder

The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt. ~Max Lerner, The Unfinished Country, 1950

"The horror of that moment," the King went on, "I shall never, never forget!" "You will, though," the Queen said, "if you don't make a memorandum of it. ~Lewis Carroll, Through the Looking Glass, 1872

There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over, the wound is closed and healed, done with. ~Harry Crews

Man performs and engenders so much more than he can or should have to bear. That's how he finds that he can bear anything. ~William Faulkner

Sadness flies on the wings of the morning and out of the heart of darkness comes the light. ~Jean Giraudoux

It is foolish to tear one's hair in grief, as though sorrow would be made less by baldness. ~Cicero

The flame of love is now just a cold loneliness. ~Uniek Swain

Rock bottom is good solid ground, and a dead end street is just a place to turn around. ~Buddy Buie and J.R. Cobb, "Rock Bottom"

The scars you can't see are the hardest to heal. ~Astrid Alauda

Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point - that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative - self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them. ~Jennifer James

Mishaps are like knives, that either serve us or cut us, as we grasp them by the blade or the handle. ~James Russell Lowell, "Cambridge Thirty Years Ago," Literary Essays

"Old times" never come back and I suppose it's just as well. What comes back is a new morning every day in the year, and that's better. ~George E. Woodberry

When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us. ~Alexander Graham Bell

I thought when love for you died, I should die.
It's dead. Alone, most strangely, I live on.
~Rupert Brooke

I hate the day, because it lendeth light
To see all things, but not my love to see.
~Edmund Spenser

Count the garden by the flowers, never by the leaves that fall. Count your life with smiles and not the tears that roll. ~Author Unknown

Earth has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal. ~Author Unknown

My love-lies-bleeding. ~Thomas Campbell

Ask me why I keep on loving you when it's clear that you don't feel the same way for me... the problem is that as much as I can't force you to love me, I can't force myself to stop loving you. ~Author Unknown

I never knew until that moment how bad it could hurt to lose something you never really had. ~From the television show The Wonder Years

Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love. ~Charlie Brown

Let no one who loves be unhappy... even love unreturned has its rainbow. ~James Matthew Barrie

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. ~Kahlil Gibran

Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears, for they are rain upon the blinding dust of earth, overlying our hard hearts. ~Charles Dickens, Great Expectations, 1860

I'm holding a teardrop for a friend
Until his heartache and misery end.
~Jaesse Tyler

The soul would have no rainbow had the eyes no tears. ~John Vance Cheney

Heavy hearts, like heavy clouds in the sky, are best relieved by the letting of a little water. ~Antoine Rivarol

To weep is to make less the depth of grief. ~William Shakespeare, King Henry the Sixth

It is some relief to weep; grief is satisfied and carried off by tears. ~Ovid

Tears are the safety valve of the heart when too much pressure is laid on it. ~Albert Smith

What soap is for the body, tears are for the soul. ~Jewish Proverb

The cure for anything is salt water - sweat, tears, or the sea. ~Isak Dinesen

It is such a secret place, the land of tears. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupery, The Little Prince

While grief is fresh, every attempt to divert only irritates. You must wait till it be digested, and then amusement will dissipate the remains of it. ~Samuel Johnson

I believe there are more urgent and honorable occupations than the incomparable waste of time we call suffering. ~Colette

The beauty of the world has two edges, one of laughter, one of anguish, cutting the heart asunder. ~Virginia Woolf, A Room of One's Own, 1929

Doing what's right is no guarantee against misfortune. ~William McFee

A new wound makes all the old ones ache again. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960

Problems are only opportunities with thorns on them. ~Hugh Miller, Snow on the Wind

That was rough.... Thing to do now is try and forget it.... I guess I don't quite mean that. It's not a thing you can forget. Maybe not even a thing you want to forget.... Life's like that sometimes... Now and then for no good reason a man can figure out, life will just haul off and knock him flat, slam him agin' the ground so hard it seems like all his insides is busted. But it's not all like that. A lot of it's mighty fine, and you can't afford to waste the good part frettin' about the bad. That makes it all bad.... Sure, I know - sayin' it's one thing and feelin' it's another. But I'll tell you a trick that's sometimes a big help. When you start lookin' around for something good to take the place of the bad, as a general rule you can find it. ~From the movie Old Yeller

God brings men into deep waters, not to drown them, but to cleanse them. ~John Aughey

In jealousy there is more self-love than love. ~François, Duc de La Rochefoucauld, Maxims, 1665

A show of envy is an insult to oneself. ~Yevgeny Alexandrovich Yevtushenko

No man is rich enough to buy back his past. ~Oscar Wilde

No yesterdays are ever wasted for those who give themselves to today. ~Brendan Francis

How to use a condom

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How to use a condom properly - How to Rip n Roll

1. Don't store condoms in a glove box or in your wallet, condoms hate heat! Also, don't use condoms past the expiration date and don't open condoms with your teeth.

2. If you're using a Latex condom, don't use oil based lubrication such as skin lotions, baby oil, Vaseline^®or cold cream - the oil in these products weakens the Latex. Always use water based or latex compatible lubricants with Latex condoms. If you must use oil based lubricants use polyurethane condoms, these are safe to use with oil.

Rip - open the package

When the time has come to cover your Captain (Captains at full attention and ready for battle). "RIP" open your favorite condoms package, being careful not to use your teeth place a few drops of your favorite water based lubricant inside the tip of the condom. Never let your Captain touch your partner before he is securely covered.

Roll - on the protection

When you put on the condom, hold the condom by the tip to squeeze out any air. Leave some space at the tip to hold any and all fluids and "ROLL" the rest down to your Captains base.

If your Captain is intact (has a foreskin), put the condom on with the foreskin pushed back. After you have Rolled and are covered, push the foreskin forward (toward the tip). This lets the foreskin move without breaking the condom.

(Optional but recommended) Place more water based lubricant on the outside of the condom. Remember, "Wetter is Better".
If at any time during battle your Captain is ambushed (the condom breaks or comes off), stop immediately and pull out. Wash your Captain and put on a new condom
After your Captain has won his battle (after intercourse), you should hold the condom at the base and pull out slowly. This should be done while your Captain is still at attention.
Throw away the used condom in the trash, not the toilet. If you choose the toilet they will come back to haunt you some day. Trust me, the last thing you want plugging your plumbing is used condoms!
Never re use condoms, use a new condom every time you have contact.

Types Of Kisses

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Below you will find a variety of kiss types. If you find some that catch your fancy, feel free to try them :-)

Butterfly Kiss - With your faces less than a breath away, open and close your eyelids against your partners. If done correctly, the fluttering sensation will match the one in your heart.

Cheek Kiss - A friendly, "I really like you" kiss. Often the preferred kissing method of a first date. With your hands on your partner's shoulders, gently brush your lips across her cheek.

Earlobe Kiss - Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors.

Eskimo Kiss - With your faces less than a breath apart, gently rub your noses together.

Eye Kiss - Hold your partner's head with both hands and slowly move their head in the direction you wish your kiss to go... then slowly kiss up towards your partner's eyes and give them a tender kiss on top of their closed eyes.

Eyelid Kiss - While your partner is resting/sleeping with eyes closed, very very gently kiss the spot right below their browbone. A very intimate kiss.

Finger Kiss - While laying together gently suck on their fingers. This can be very seductive and pleasurable.

Foot Kiss - An erotic and romantic gesture. It may tickle, but relax and enjoy it! To give a toe kiss by gently suck the toes and then lightly kissing the foot. It helps to gently massage the base of the foot while performing the kiss.

Forehead Kiss - The "motherly" kiss or "just friends" kiss. The forehead kiss can be a comforting kiss to anyone. Simply brush your lips lightly across the crown of their head.

Freeze Kiss (or Melt Kiss) - Experiment with this fun kiss. Put a small piece of ice in your mouth, then open mouth and kiss your partner, passing them the ice with your tongue. It's an erotic and sensual french kiss with a twist of cold.

French Kiss - The kiss involving the tongue. Some call this the "Soul Kiss" because the life and soul are thought to pass through the mouth's breath in the exchange across tongues. Surprisingly, the French call this "The English Kiss".

Fruity Kiss - Take a small piece of fruit and place between your lips (juicy fruits such as grapes, strawberries, small pieces of pineapple or mango are ideal). Kiss your partner and nibble one half of the piece of fruit while they nibble the other until it breaks in half, allowing the juice to run into your mouths.

Hand Kiss - Gently raise her hand to your lips. Lightly brush your lips across the top of her hand. Historically this kiss was performed with a bow, which showed deference to a lady.

Hickey Kiss - The object is not to draw blood, but to gently leave a mark that will prove your interlude was not a dream. This is often included in erotic foreplay.

Hostage Kiss - Cover your lips with tape and get your love's attention. When they come near, make noises like you're trying to tell them something and motion as if you can't get the tape off. Once they remove the tape from you to hear what you're trying to say tell them: "I've been saving my lips all day just for you!" Then kiss your love passionately!

Hot and Cold Kiss - Lick your partner's lips so that they're warm, and then gently blow on them. The sudden cold blast makes for a sensual explosion, and they will often try it on you next, as well as get very passionate.

Mistletoe Kiss - Surprise your lover by capturing them with a gentle holiday kiss under the mistletoe. This is also a good method for shyer individuals to steal a kiss from a potential lover.

Letter Kiss - Send your lover a kiss in a love letter by writing the letter x several times in a row at the bottom of a letter such as XXXXX.

Lick Kiss - Just before kissing, gently run your tongue along you partners lip whether it be the top or bottom one depending on the position of your lips. Very sensual.

Lip Sucking Kiss - When kissing gently suck on their lower lip. This can be very exciting.

Neck Nibble Kiss - Gently nibble up and down your partners neck. End with a gentle kiss on the lips.

Nip Kiss - This kiss can create a very erotic sensation. While kissing your partner, ever so gently nibble on their lips. You must be very careful not to bite to hard or hurt your partner. When done correctly, this kiss ignites wonderful sensations.

Reverse Lips Kiss - It involves standing above your lover and kissing them from over their head. This way, each kisser can take the hyper-sensitive bottom lip of thier lover in their mouths, and GENTLY draw blood to the surface of the lip by nibbling and sucking. A very sensuous, connecting kiss.

Searching The Cavern - Use the lips and tongue to gently tickle and kiss your lover's navel. Vary speeds and stroke to change sensation. Invigorating and intoxicating.

Shoulder Kiss - Simply come from behind, embrace her, and kiss the top of her shoulder. This is a sensual, loving kiss.

Sip Kiss - Take a small sip of your favorite drink. Leaving a little bit of it on your lips, kiss your partner. It is a unique way to create a sensual feeling and your partner will enjoy it.

Talking Kiss - Whisper sweet nothings into your partner's mouth. If caught in the act, simply say as Chico Marx, "I wasn't kissing her. I was whispering into her mouth."

Teaser Kiss - Starting on the forehead, a sweet short kiss on lips, then move up the arms up to her hand, kiss her hand, then come back up her arm, to her face and then lightly kiss her lips till she wants a passionate kiss.

The Buzzing Kiss - Gently place your lips against your lover's neck , behind their ear. Now, send a shudder through their skin by gently growling and humming, vibrating your lips and cheeks as you do so. Move up and down the neck, over the bones of the face and lips. Stimulating and erotic when done correctly.

The Whipped Cream Kiss - Dip your finger into some cool whip or whipped cream of your choice. Lick it off slowly, then embrace your partner and kiss them deeply letting their tongue slip over yours for a wonderfully sweet kiss. It's very seductive and passionate.

Tiger Kiss - Quietly sneak up behind your partner making sure they do not know what you are going to do. Out of the blue, grab them and gently bite their neck. Make sure to get a few good growls in too. This will surely surprise them.

Trickle Kiss - Take a sip of a favourite drink and trickle it slowly into partner's mouth while kissing.

Tongue Sucking - A variation of the French kiss. During an open-mouth kiss gently suck on your partner's tongue (not too hard because it may hurt). Very sexy :-)

Quickie Kiss - When you're in a rush. Often the nose gets it rather than the lips.

Vacuum Kiss - While kissing open-mouthed, slightly suck in as if you were sucking the air from your partners mouth. This is a playful kiss.

Wake Up Kiss - Before your partner awakes lean over and kiss their cheek and move over giving soft kisses until you reach their lips. Definitely a more than pleasant way to wake up!

CLUES TO ATTRACT A MAN

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What makes a woman attractive to a man?

In fact every woman sends out signals to men. Most men can detect and read your signals in a matter of seconds. The first pulses you emit are your dress and your body language.

It’s incredibly easy for a woman to attract attention from men. Just wear skin-tight, thigh-length, revealing clothing. You’ll get lots of male attention. But will it be the kind of attention you want? Fishermen insist that the fish you catch is determined by the bait you use.

Would you like to make yourself more appealing to a man who will be attracted to you as a person and not as an object? If so, remember these tips to keep in mind when trying to attract a man.

Confidence is the number one attraction. Being more confident with yourself and your surroundings will attract someone that is equal to you. You will also notice that more people are drawn to you.

Appearance is also a big issue. Your appearance and body language may catch his attention, but it takes personality and charm to sustain a man's interest.

Realize you only have one chance to make a good first impression. If he sees you when you are at your worst then he will not want to look a second time.

Give a man a reason to think about you. Wear a lingering fragrance that haunts his memory, soft clothes that he yearns to touch and a smile that he can't get out of his mind. And don’t forget to leave a little something to the imagination. An air of mystery can be provocative and appealing to a man.

Make him feel important by focusing your full attention on him. Listen intently to what he has to say and respond with respect for his opinions, laugh at his jokes no matter how lama they are, take an interest in his interests.

And finally – don't try and be something you are not. He will be falling for a false idol and will not want to know you when he sees the real you. Let him know you're different from all the rest. Emphasize your originality through your personality, intelligence and behavior.

WORTH BEING LOVED

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They say good man is worth being loved. But then why do people all the time fall for wrong men and women? Moral qualities of a person of cause mean a lot but when we love one we usually can’t define and give a name to that something special in that person that makes us feel this way. Love is an irrational feeling, we can never predict who will be the next and moreover say if her or she will be finally worth it. Everything would be very nice and simple if we could count all the minuses and the pluses than compare the results and in case there are more minuses say “no, I’m not interested”. We all like and in the end love the people who differ, who are personalities, who have that sparkle in them. And it’s sad but good people are sometimes very dull and boring in communication exactly because they do everything right, they never cross any lines.

If you want people, both men and women, to love you – start training your skills in communication. Be pleasant, nice, easy-going, but not too obstructive, learn to be a good listener, because both women and men would prefer speaking of themselves than listening about all your nice features and talents.

Work on your sense of humor, being slightly ironical is always very attractive.
Try to get rid of the stereotypes and to be democratical in your points of view.
Don’t judge too strictly the defaults and weak points of other people – remember you have yours ones. If you really want to attract a person and maybe even try to make him or her fall in love – you shouldn’t criticize your object even if you know that the person is very tolerant to critics. Compliments will do better. Be attentive and helpful. Be good or try to act good. Never tell all at once about yourself. Be a little bit mysterious but not too mystificating. And look after yourself because first we see an appearance and only than personality.

There are some tricks that may help attract the interest of your object. Some say that every man and every woman has his/her vision of an ideal partner, so you just have to find out what it is and act in order to correspond to it. For example a business lady would appeal to an ambitious and successful man, a home man needs a child-woman to care about, a bored man searching for new experience would like an lively girl with the a good sense of humor and etc.

More universal variants of behavior is to be different, to leave your object each time a little bit surprised, one day to look in the eyes and the other to ignore.

This simple trick works but mostly to increase interest which already exists. In case when one doesn’t define you from the environment sometimes it’s better to give it before it gets any deeper.

Playing games even an actor by nature can’t do it forever, so one day the real you will show up and that may be a great surprise for the person that is in love that another you. So staying yourself in any situation is the most reliable way to be. Remember that worth being loved is only that person that loves him/herself. And the most wrong thing one can do is to convince him/herself that he/she is not worth anyone’s love. To attract people you have to be shining, optimistic and – which is very important – self-confident.

LOVE DECLARATION

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How to declare your love in order to get a positive answer? Well first of all you have to be sure that you have the reciprocity. If you don’t have no guarantees of that you’d better ask yourself if you are ready to get refused. And if you are not try do get a little bit closer to your object, to learn more about him or her in order to understand what he or she feels.

If you can’t stay silent no more and want to declare your feelings whatever the reaction may follow still try to make in a way that will be the most acceptable for you both and won’t only push your object away.

Demonstrative personalities like loud and bright love declarations probably in public. It can be a heap of red roses, or huge inscription on the wall, serenades under the balcony. You may fall on your knees and read a love poem in a loud voice, you can glue your printed love declaration all around, you may appeal to people around telling her (or maybe him) about your feeling. If your object is really one of those people who like to demonstrate their relationships and feelings in public she/he will be impressed by your bravery, imagination and the strength of your feeling (although it’s said that only that one who doesn’t feel anything can speak about the love in the beautiful words). And if you don’t have the reciprocity yet such a declaration can be one step forward to it.

But in an object of your love is shy, modest or just reserved and doesn’t like to attract an extra-attention to his/her person this kind of a declaration won’t do and you may get a negative answer even if your object has some kind of a sympathy to you. Words of love said in privacy or whispered in the ear don’t loose any bit of their meaning and probably even gain some.

However you would declare your love be sincere, don’t try to impress or to take your object by surprise, don’t be too pushy, don’t ask for a definite answer at the same moment. Just let the one know that you differ him or her from the other people, that he/she means something special and serious for you.

Love declarations usually come naturally when two people are seeing each other for some time already and are quiet sure about the feelings of each other. Nobody gets prepared to declare his/her love to a partner. it usually comes all of a sudden, by some impulse or just by the way. And when couple has a long-lasting relationships everyday small signs of attention, care and support will say more than all love poems in the world, though such romantic love declarations are very nice either.

By the way if you are shy or can’t find the words to say about your love you can always do by any means of communication which are plenty today, though only after oral love declaration you can observe the very first reaction and expect the most sincere answer.

If you hear “no” in the an answer to the declaration of your feeling don’t loose your hope all at once (exception is when your object starts laughing in your face). You may ask him/her to stay friends, to meet sometimes for a coffee and a chat. Don’t complain, whine or get glued, be pleasant and try to keep some contact. Most people can’t stay completely indifferent to a person who has distinguished them from all other. The one who’s listened to your declaration can starts looking at you more attentively because you are the one who sees in him ore her some features of which the others probably have no idea. Who knows maybe later on this interest may turn to a sympathy or something more or otherwise you may study your object of love better, see it’s real face beyond your fantasies and start feeling a little less in love.

One more question about love declarations – who is supposed to do it first. Traditionally it’s men who declare their feelings first and it’s women who sigh out in answer a languid “yes”. Nowadays both men and women are free to speak about their love and feelings first. Of cause the traditions aren’t totally overcome in people’s mind. Women often are too shy or too proud to do it firsts. Men usually don’t know how to behave in the answer and what to do, they may even get scared and push the woman away. And women are less prepared to hear “no” and can get deeply hurt by it. Just is you feel you’re unable to conceal your feelings no longer – declare them but mind that your object doesn’t get responsible for you after it.

LOVE ADDICTION

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The Ancient Greeks already described “mania” as one of the forms of love. It’s an obsessive, ecstatic and long-lasting love. It usually exaggerates the meaning and the importance of the feeling. Very often it leads to strong emotional shocks and dramas. It seeks for the total possession and control over partner, although it can be heroic and self-sacrificing. “Mania” stays very strong even when it has no reciprocity, it can be blindly faithful. Nowadays this form of love exists but in has become less dramatic.

Love addiction is when we say I love him/her too much, I can’t let him/her go, it’ when we are ready to suffer, see our love being abused but still ready to forgive everything because of a terrible fear to loose the one we love.

Some people get adducted to love as the other get addicted to drugs or alcohol. It’s when their partner becomes the centre and the meaning of their whole life, when his or life becomes their life and everything they turn to do is to satisfy their partner’s need and to solve his/her problem. Work, friends, hobbies, personal interests – nothing of that matter for a love addicted person more. And in the basics of it all lays not the love but the fear that can take it’s roots in early childhood when a future love addict didn’t get enough love and attention and now he/she’s trying to fill that space being very scared to return to that loneliness of a child.

In this “mania” relationships there’s very often nothing left to call love, these relationships don’t bring comfort, pleasure and support as they’re supposed to do, but only pain and sufferings. And love addicts may even realise it but the don’t have strength to leave. An addicted to love person is ready to do almost everything if it can be necessary or useful to his/her partner. There is nothing too expensive, unpleasant or taking too much time for it.

These love addicts can be very nervous and depressive, also they are willing to gain total control over the partner. The reason is that they aren’t enough self-confidence and those possessive relationship can be an attempt to prove they are worth something.

Most of all love addicts are scared that the relationship will be ruined because it seems that won’t be able to live without their partner so they are ready to bear selfishness, indifference, cruelty, disgrace. More other those possessed with love try to convince themselves that all this “minuses” are temporary and that their partner is just having hard time at the moment, but after it’s over he/she will se everything that has been done for them and will turn to be very thankful. Love addicts also may think thanks to their childhood that such sick relations with an indifferent partner is the only they are worth. They may ignore all the good people around them that are willing to give their love and attention.

By the way it’s women who suffer from love addiction more than men. Addictive men usually become obsessed with their job or hobby. The worst variant is drugs and alcohol. And the addictive women usually choose such men as a cross to berry.

The only way to get rid of such a love addiction is to fight all the fears and to quit that obsessive and destructive relationships, to prove yourself that you’re worth much more. Relationships are never supposed to be a one-way street, love is giving but normally it gets much in return. The problem is that the love addiction can be a very serious problem repeating from one relationships to the other so that a person isn’t even able to solve it without professional help.

WHEN TWO BECOMES ONE

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You are no longer a couple, you are the one, you share one life and don’t divide it no longer in two. You don’t use the word “I” anymore, there’s only “We”. You belong to him and have no doubts that he belongs to you. So two become one...

When everything suddenly goes right, and all the problems seem so miserable that you don’t even have think now, since now you don’t have to worry about a thing at all.

When you are ready to give up all your life for him and you’re quite sure that he’ll never ask for that because he’s ready to do the same.

When you don’t have to talk to understand each other, and when one starts a phrase the other finishes it.

When you can talk about everything in the world and tell each other all the secrets you’ve ever had.

When it’s never better to sleep apart, but when you sleep in one bed it’s so difficult to fall asleep at all.

When you’re together you don’t let go each others hands not for a second.

When you start acting and thinking very similar, and suddenly find out that you both copy each other even in intonations.

When you look at the world around not only with yours but with his eyes at the same time, when you note around everything that could be interesting or useful for him.

When you tell one another the smallest impressions and can always count on total understanding.

When you see your future only with him and see no future without him.

When suddenly and fully understand the meaning of the word “family”.

When you’d rather stay alone than go anywhere without him but nobody doesn’t expect you to come alone anywhere at all.

When every moment is the right moment to call him, and when you feel when he’s is going to call you.

When you look at him the color of your eyes changes and in your turn you are sure that he won’t every look at anybody with those eyes he’s looking at you.

When you are apart the letters from each other come just on time, when you most expect them to come.

When you both have one past, share the same memories and built together the plans for future, when you are rewriting all the plans you had before he came so they could suit him too.
When you learn all his weak points to avoid pressing on them.

When you are beside him you never and nowhere feel out of place.

When you want to go around the world together and at the same time settle down somewhere, build a house, grow a garden and bring up kids together. And you will be making that house a home, keeping it warm, clean, nice so that he would always feel comfortable there.

When you want to take care of him all the times and always feel that care from his side.

When you want to support and help him and do everything, even impossible only to keep him happy.

When you both start doing things you’ve never done before and when you quit doing some things that you’ve been used to.

When you can let yourself be weak.

When you stop looking at the other man at all.

When you both become better day after day because you want to be the best for each other.

When everything you’re doing is right seems to him and when everything he’s doing seems right to you.

When you want every single day to last forever.

When you are never alone.

How can one make this fairytale last forever? Is it possible at all? How not to loose such a great love, not to let it efface itself among the worries of everyday life? These are the questions on which one should work for all his/her life.

LOST LOVE

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Every love affair has it’s lifetime. This that as long as it has a start it has a finish. Some relationships last to the end of partners lifetime, some die soon after they started.

Love may start as the strongest passion but time passes and the storm of emotions calms down, relationships once so bright and full of surprises become routine. It drags on for a while and than comes crisis. A couple can either survive through it or fall apart.

Even when the love is gone it’s always hard to realize that you have to quit something once so good. There’s no certain way to decrease the sad feelings about falling apart. You may only try to stay civilized people about it and to let the one who’s leaving do it without making up grandiose scandals and hysterics.

Although some think that it’s better to stay enemies than friends because than you will have nothing to regret about and won’t execute meaningless attempts to get things back. But is it so right to ruin all the memories about the happy time two people have spent together with ugly scenes screaming and blaming each other in the worst sins?

It’s over when it’s over and sometimes it’s obvious that all is over. Two people scream and shout one at the other almost everyday, they have nothing to talk about and if they do every conversation turns into a quarrel, one finds faults with everything the other does, they both simply annoy each other. That’s definitely the end.

The question is where the love’s gone. Nobody knows it. Maybe they’ve been spending too much time together and finally have started to bore each other. Maybe he has stopped telling her about his love and she has stopped feeling it. Maybe time has made the illusions disappear and the reality has turned to be not what they both expected. Maybe there was only passion and after it’s gone nothing has left. There can be plenty of those maybes. Every misfortune has it’s own face. It may even be that nothing is over but people need to take a little rest one from the other or try to diversify their relationships. In fact when each one of a couple is willing to fight to make love stay they’ll find the way to do it.

The real tragedy is when one still feels the love but the other is bored and wants to leave. If the feeling is really gone no tricks will help to keep the partner, sooner or later he or she will finally leave and those few more weeks together won’t make you happier. The only thing you can really do in this case is to try to get over him/her as soon as possible. That misery will pass as the happiness did.

Sometimes (and it specially refers to women) a man looses his interest to a woman because she has given up her job, interests, friends and etc. in order to become the part of his life, to be everything he needs. He doesn’t have to conquer her no more, she has stopped being a personality with her own life that he had once fallen in love with. If fact this is one of the general mistakes people do. They get too comfortable and stop fighting for each others love. And than when a partner starts packing bags they wonder where did I go wrong.

But still in very many cases lost love isn’t anyone’s fault. It is just the way things go. We should never stop believing that next time the feeling will be real and will finally last to the very end. We have no limit of times that we can fall in love and so although it’s sad to loose love, each time we do we should try to look at it as on the chance to find a new better one.

LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT

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Do you believe in love at first sight? Scientists study our brain activity and say that it’s quiet possible but everyone is free to believe or not to believe.

Some people claim that it happened to them and it was like you raise your head, meet those eyes and tell yourself “It is He/She!”. Psychologists say that love at first sight depends on our psychological state at the moment. In some case we won’t even notice those charming eyes in another they can make a lasting impression on as. Also they say that it takes about 30 seconds to fall in love or precisely speaking to estimate whether the person is worth to fall in love with. By the way psychologists claim that men fall in love first.

Very many factors act in the situation of falling in love from the first sight. These are our ideals, intuition or “fast logic”, imagination etc. When you fall in love at the first sight you are usually ready and willing to fall in love. Less possibility that it will happen if you are tired, stressed, solving problems in you mind. Of cause the main part in falling in love is given to the appearance, voice, gestures, smell. One person intuitively searches in the other the qualities and the feature to complete him/herself. Of causes beautiful people attract attention the most, but sometimes it’s wrong to fall in love with them easily because those people are experiencing much attention from the people of the other sex all the time and your delightful reaction may simply have no answers.

But if you suddenly fall in love with quiet unknown person and see that it’s mutual that may mean even that mother-nature has chosen a partner that genetically suits you a lot. In this case it is like “aha, match!” when someone happens to fill up all the necessary categories like “tall, blond, blue-eyed, looks good, has a style and nice manners, likes me”.

Still the cases when people really had fallen in love from the first sight and lived long and happily after that are rather it. You may dream of a beautiful stranger that waits for you just around the corner but it’s wrong to name every slight sympathy and interest to a person the love at first sight. Maybe you’re just a little tired of everything that surrounds you or trying to fill the emptiness inside, yet it doesn’t mean everyone who looks nice will do. Sometimes it takes patience and time to find out the true nature of your feelings, mind that wonders do happen but not as often as we would like them too. If you suddenly have felt the wings behind you back still try to keep your feet on the ground because if it’s really love at first sight nothing will happen to it but if you’re taking illusions for reality falling back on the ground can be really hurtful.

By the way some theories say that we fall in love not from the first sight but from the first smell. Scientist claim that we pay much attention to what our eyes and ears tell us but on the subconscious level the way the person smells play a very big part in his or her expression on us although we don’t recognize it.

FIRST LOVE

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Theoretically first love can happen in any age or not happen at all. But most people had fallen in love for the first time when they were teenagers. That exciting new experience most of us remember very well during all our life. For an adult his/her own high school problems and the problems of their children seem very funny, silly and simple especially compared with all the difficulties of adult life. Somehow we forget how tragic and full of drama life and relationships were than in our adolescence.

Than a teenager falls in love and it happens for the first time he/she feels all it’s ups and downs for the first time either. In that age we mostly enjoy ourselves and study the new emotions inside than show much interest for the inner world of our first boy/girlfriend.

Once we start to show interest to the persons of the other sex and a little later instinctively choose our first love. The relationships between two sexes will interest and trouble us during all our future life but these first steps are always the most difficult and for some of us turn to be very painful. Teenager has a growing and changing body that he/she hasn’t started to understand yet and a delicate soul which is so easy to hurt.

Adults very often don’t take this first affection for serious, they may laugh at it, preach, tell their children that they are too young to really feel anything, that his or her object isn’t a good pair for him or her, they may try obey them stop seeing their boy/girlfriend. This is all very wrong. No one can stop anybody from falling in love especially when it’s so beckoning with the novelty.

Wise adults can only try to support their young comrade to pass this complicated with the least wounds and hurt. The feelings of adolescents are as changeable as their mood. So the first love usually goes very soon after it comes. The mission of people around is to show that it’s not the end of world and that a teenager is not alone, that there still stay people who love him/her and in their love he/her can’t be sure. The first love is only the first lesson to learn but it like Alphabet stays in the basic of the whole future relationships of a human.

Very often we cherish these memories a lot, sometimes idealise them, remember the first love as something very innocent and fragile. If something went wrong than some people may have some problems with starting new relationships, they may even achieve come serious complexes that will be spoiling their relationships all the time.

But there’s no such low that tells we all fall in love for the first time in our adolescence if not with our coevals, than with our favourite teaches, famous actors and pop-stars. Yes, teenagers searching an ideal love object in the real life and not finding it there can turn to TV-screen heroes, or persons who are elder and seem wiser and more experienced when the people of the same with them age. Of cause most adults don’t take these kid’s falling for them too serious. It passes as does the hysterical passion for the pop-stars. But still some people don’t fall in love at this age of first love at all, they have some boy/girlfriends in order not to differ from others, to satisfy curiosity and a booty call, they may really like the coevals they have relationships with, but still it nothing serious. For those people their first love may come later, and the feeling will be the same new and surprising for them as for the teenagers. But Bernard Show said that if you haven’t fallen in love till you’re forty you already shouldn’t do it after.

LOVE RELATIONSHIPS

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There are many different types of relationships that connect people, it can be business relations, friendly relations, relative relations, neighbour relations and etc. The love relationships are the most complicated, most troublesome and most pleasant ones.

Different people pass a longer or a shorter way from the beginning to the end of love. Every couple would like that they are the unique ones, and of cause the love relationships between different people are very different too but still couple has something in common. and people who have had a few lasting relationships would agree with that.

Everything starts when a man and a woman get interested in each other, they fall in love, start seeing each other. Every new romantic date brings something new and exciting, they learn more and more about each other, but still see mostly positive side and don’t pay much attention to the flows of each other. With every single meeting they fall more and more one into another, call every hour just to say how are you. Their souls are filled with the strongest and brightest emotions, their eyes see the world in the pink colour, their mind is blacked out. By that first time love gives them the wings to fly, the strength to do very crazy things and the will to conquer the world and to lay at the feet of their lover.

This happy and charming period beginning of love relationships has been inspiring poets, painters and other artists to create their best works. By this time the most gloomy sceptics turn into dreamer and romantics.

Some people even get married in this period. And many of these marriages are rather happy because by this time lovers listen only to their hearts and intuition and yet don’t let mind with it’s logic and blurred ideals, parents, friends and etc get in the way. The only thing lovers know than is that they want to fall asleep in the arms of each over and the first thing they want to in the morning is the faces of one another.

After a while the euphoria calms down, the feelings still stay deep but much more calm and stable. Lovers take off the pink ribbon from the eyes and start seeing each other as they are for real. And if the intuition and heart hasn’t deceased them they still like what they see although the picture is a little bit different and not so flawless.

Lovers turn to be not only the best and the only one for another but they become the real friends trustful and understanding, the first they can turn to in any trouble, always ready to listen and to help. By the way not very many couples have that real friendship and more over that faithfulness. People having short and light love affairs usually understand them as some kind of entertainment and let their partner only into some small part of their lives. But when speaking of love relationships in which the true deep feelings are involved the situation is quiet different.

The stable and happy relationships of this period can last for a few years. Most people get married or start living together by that time and if they do this love relationships can become than one true love of a life. If something gets in the way and it doesn’t happen or people still continue only going out with each other – the relations slowly start to fade.

The sparkles of the initial feeling between them become more and more rare, they don’t work on the relationships anymore, thinking this comfortable state will last forever. Lovers don’t find it necessary to show and prove their feelings over and over again staying sure that everything possible is already said and done. They become more and more lazy in their love, another interests and even people start playing the main role in their lives. It all takes time, this situation develops little by little. And them one day you one partner finds out that he/she’s too tired to go out on a date this evening. Love isn’t gone yet but no one expects anything surprises or wonder from it so one more evening without the partner won’t change anything. And once of the lovers will raise the head and suddenly see that there’s nothing left to call love.

This is what can be said in general about the way the love relationships go (mind that it all doesn’t refer to the relationships based on sexual attraction, obsession or any self-interest; it’s all about the way love goes). Every couple has something special about them but still there are some problems, questions and choices that neither of them can avoid.

PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIPS

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Relationship is defined as a state of connectedness between people. Although in today’s society with its crazy rhythm of everyday life, when people tend to live in densely populated megapolises, spending most of their time in the office and hardly knowing their neighbor’s name, we still find ourselves in some kind of a relationship – with friends, family, or colleagues.

Family relationships are the first people’s relationships to enter into. Parents and relatives influence our emotional development by creating a model that we are sometimes bound to follow all our life, often subconsciously. People who have grown up in large happy families usually feel more emotionally secure than those, whose parents had gone through a divorce. For sure you know quite a few attractive and successful women who remain single for some ‘mysterious’ reason. They often turn out to be victims of their past. Deep inside they cannot overcome the fear of being abandoned, that comes from their childhood, when one or both of their parents left them or just did not pay enough attention. A well-established young man can be scared of a commitment in a relationship as his parents’ family model failed to convince him that getting married makes one happy.

In daycare, at school, then in the office we spend a lot of time among fellow students and coworkers. We learn to maintain business relationships, to work in a team environment, then form smaller groups of like-minded people and finally select some of them as our friends.

What is a true friendship? How does it start? Are we destined to become friends with certain people or can we actually plan whom to be friends with?

“Everybody's friend is nobody's”, said Arthur Schopenhauer. Unlike a companionship based on belonging to the same team or group, friendship is a very personal and selective type of people’s relationships. It calls for trust, sincerity, and emotional bonds. It’s not without reason that we call our friends our alter ego.

Sociologists believe that most of the people are looking for similarity of views, social status, and interests when choosing friends. No wonder that our friends are often people of the same age, sex, and education. Another important factor is joint activity and solidarity. This is the reason why many of us befriend their colleagues and people who work in the same field.

Another underestimated common prerequisite for friendship is geographical proximity. If our friends move out of town or overseas, it is a very common reason why friendship falls apart. Maintaining a long distance friendship is a challenge, and not many of us pass this test.

Most people would agree that a friend is someone who would always listen and understand. “Understanding” in this context implies a lot of meanings – compassion, sympathy, and emotional closeness. It’s a process when your friend deciphers your emotional state, shares your feelings, identifies himself/herself with you. “Friendship is like money, easier made than kept”, said Samuel Butler. To maintain friendship we have to make an effort. Friendship can be time consuming and might require some sacrifice from our part – staying up all night comforting a girlfriend after a hard breakup, canceling you hairdresser’s appointment to babysit your friends’ kids, or taking care of someone’s pets. But friendship rewards us with a warm feeling of being there for someone, being important, being part of someone’s life.

The number of single people is growing every day, making modern psychologists question the need for a serious relationship between men and women. People are getting more and more self-sufficient and don’t seem to need a life partner any longer. Now, when successful career and professional self-realization have become priority for fresh graduates, when taking maternity leave will take away your chances of ever catching up with your more successful and commitment-free coworkers, most people tend to delay settling down or even moving in with someone until their late thirties. And by this time many of them are so much used to living independently, that they find a mere thought of living with someone or considering any kind of commitment repulsive. “I am not a marrying type. I am missing the bride gene”, says Carrie Bradshow in the “Sex and the City”, who has become a role model for many single women around the world.

It’s a reality we have to acknowledge – people become more and more alienated, introverted and scared of getting closer to each other. Does it seem familiar? Each gender is trying to make con¬tact with the other side, but is becoming trapped and confused in the process. Like a beast who has come too close to a hot-wired electric fence, we've seen both men and women jump back and retreat from the oppo¬site sex, because they are afraid of risking the potential pain of rejection. So they keep their distance.

However, psychological studies reveal that people who manage to maintain healthy relationships really have more happiness and less stress. There are simple ways to make relationships healthy, even though each one is different… boyfriends, girlfriends, parents, siblings, friends, colleagues, professors, roommates, and classmates.

Here are some tips to keep any kind of people’s relationships healthy:

• Accept people as they are and don’t try to change them.
• Be yourself. Healthy relationships are made of real people, not images!
• Talk with each other and genuinely listen.
• Be reliable – keep your promises, meet deadlines
• Don’t criticize. Avoid blaming the other person for your thoughts and feelings.
• Admit mistakes and say ‘sorry’ when you are wrong

FALLING IN LOVE

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Falling in love and love are two quiet different feeling. Falling in love can be either a flash of emotions or a first step towards love.

Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to the person of the other sex. In case it’s mutual and both lovers will work at their relationships one day that feeling can grow into love. Falling in love is crazy, it very physical, it’s when knees are getting weak and temperature rises, love is calm, comfortable and mental.

You have to do nothing to fall in love and often there’s either nothing you can do to stop falling in love. It’s very illogical: you suffer from splashes of emotions, doubts, can’t fully control yourself and it’s all because of a person you usually almost don’t know. When we fall in love nature shows all it’s power on us. Sometimes it even goes against our sense when we understand that we can’t expect nothing good from these relationships that it’s the wrong person but still can do nothing about ourselves.

Falling in love is the call of our sex but the object is instinctually chosen according to our ideals, dreams and etc although we may not realize it. We usually fall in love with the appearance of the person, with the way he/she walks, the way he/she talks. Sometimes we impute to our object of love some illusional, ideal qualities and the more we get to know that that person the less we fall for him or her. That’s when the feeling disappears eve faster than it appeared.

The more two persons get to know each other, the more comfortable they get the less sharp, bright and exciting the feeling gets. Some couples continue their relationships and get married in the end some fall apart. It’s reasonable to say that a second pair of slippers by the bed and one more toothbrush in the bathroom is the end of that crazy falling in love but it also can be the beginning of something more serious.

Different people fall in love more or less often than other. Some are switching partners enjoying crazy emotions which never turn with them into a real love.

Some may fall in love for a short time while having some permanent partner they love, this can even ruin some stable relationships. Some can claim to be in love with two people at the same time. These are usually two very different people so that one can’t choose which type is better but can neither afford to take both. In the center of love there’s always only one person.
We may call falling in love some kind of a temporary illness both mental and physical and won’t be very wrong. Some will say that it’s destructive, selfish, possessive, blind and give falling in love many other unpleasant definitions. But have those people ever been in love? Because if they have they would know that it differs from any other illness in on very essential way – it can be very pleasant. People nowadays often turn to antidepressants and drugs because it makes them feel better in the first case and makes them high in the second.

Falling in love is the most natural and the least harmless kind of doping. Yes, it’s not mural, it never looks in the future, in fact it has no future but it gives life some spirit of freshness and youthfulness.

ROMANTIC IDEAS

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Surprise her with her favorite flower whether it be a dozen roses or some other type.
Send a romantic e-card.
Give a back rub or massage Give a card "just because" Take a bubble bath together by candlelight.
Fill his/her apartment, car, work place etc.. with flowers or gifts.
Snuggle together before you go to sleep Give him/her some loving coupons entitling them to a free meal, hug, etc..
Make it a point to call them during the day just to say "I love you".
Take a walk together in the moonlight
. Write a love letter, cut it into pieces like a jigsaw puzzle and give a piece a day until it is all complete.
Create a scrapbook of little tokens that you have kept while you have been together, such as: Theatre tickets, photos, wine corks, etc..
Get out of bed early, cook breakfast and deliver it in bed.
Write a love poem.
Leave love notes in places where you know your love will eventually find them such as in his glove compartment, under the pillow.
Make it a point to tell your loved one "I love you" each day.
Spend the weekend at a swanky hotel.
Take a carriage ride around your home town.
Build your loved one a web-page.
Give them a gift that they have always wanted.
Buy them a personalised teddy bear with "I love you" on it.
Rent a romantic movie, and snuggle up for the night in front of the box.
Compliment your lover at least once each day.
Watch the sunset at the beach, or some other romantic place.
Stay up all night and watch the sunrise.
Make your lover a card "just because".
Go to a coffee shop, enjoy a cup of coffee or tea and just enjoy each other's company.
Share a plate of spaghetti.
Listen without interrupting when they are talking.
Send a bouquet of flowers to their work place to make them feel extra special in front of their colleugues Spend one week without the TV you will be suprised at how much time you spend together and how much you will enjoy each others company.
Exchange keys to each other's cars and homes. T
ake a day off and spend it in bed.
Cook her a romantic meal for two.
Do something that you both enjoy together, whether it be ice-skating, going to the movies or what ever as long as you spend at least an afternoon doing it.
Do something different each day to add excitement and mystery to your relationship.
Dedicate their favorite song on the radio when you know they will be driving home from work.
Surprise your love by doing the dishes, laundry, etc.
Buy tickets to their favorite event.
Go back to the place where you had your first date.
Fly a kite.
Yes I said fly a kite.
This isn`t just for kids you will be hooked.
Get a local directory of your area and spend the day visiting interesting places that you have yet to discover.
Write them a love note and pack it in their lunch box.
Give Hershey Kisses with a note attached saying they can be exchanged for real kisses.
Celebrate your Anniversary every month instead of just once a year.
Turn the bedroom into a love nest with candles and fresh flowers.
Turn up unexpectedly at their work place to walk them home.
Scatter rose petals all over the bed with an expensive bottle of perfume in the middle of them.
Make one day a week your day filled with romance and make it different each week.

I LOVE YOU IN 100 LANGUAGES

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English - I love you
Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
Albanian - Te dua
Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
Armenian - Yes kez sirumen
Bambara - M'bi fe
Bangla - Aamee tuma ke bhalo aashi
Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a
Catalan - T'estimo
Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Creol - Mi aime jou
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian - Afgreki'
Faroese - Eg elski teg
Farsi - Doset daram
Filipino - Mahal kita
Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
French - Je t'aime, Je t'adore
Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
Georgian - Mikvarhar
German - Ich liebe dich
Greek - S'agapo
Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia oi
Hebrew - Ani ohev otah (to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev et otha (to male)
Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Icelandic - Eg elska tig
Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Inuit - Negligevapse
Irish - Taim i' ngra leat
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Aishiteru
Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene
Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka
Kiswahili - Nakupenda
Konkani - Tu magel moga cho
Korean - Sarang Heyo
Latin - Te amo
Latvian - Es tevi miilu
Lebanese - Bahibak
Lithuanian - Tave myliu
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni
Marathi - Me tula prem karto
Mohawk - Kanbhik
Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
Navaho - Ayor anosh'ni
Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg
Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
Pangasinan - Inaru Taka
Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
Persian - Doo-set daaram
Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay
Polish - Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Romanian - Te iubesc
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic - Tha gra'dh agam ort
Serbian - Volim te
Setswana - Ke a go rata
Sign Language - ,\,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing'I Love You')
Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux - Techihhila
Slovak - Lu`bim ta
Slovenian - Ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
Tagalog - Mahal kita
Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)
Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)
Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)
Welsh - 'Rwy'n dy garu
Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba - Mo ni fe

KISSING QUOTES

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"A kiss can be a comma, a question mark, or an exclamation point.

That's basic spelling that every woman ought to know." - Mistinguett

"At last you kissed me, I could die in waves again, and one good lick of quicksand took...." - Heather McHugh

"I am in favor of preserving the French habit of kissing the hands of ladies. After all, one must start somewhere." - Sacha Guitry

"The most eloquent silence; that of two mouths meeting in a kiss. - unknown

"The soul that can speak with its eyes can also kiss with a gaze." - unknown

"There's this place in me where your fingerprints still rest, your kisses still linger, and your whispers softly echo. It's the place where a part of you will forever be a part of me." - Gretchen
Kemp

"You don't have to say anything and you don't have to do anything. Not a thing. Oh, maybe just whistle. You know how to whistle, don't you, Steve? You just put your lips together and ... blow.'' - Lauren Bacall in To Have and Have Not

ROMANTIC AND PASSIONATE SAYINGS

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"Paradise is always where love dwells." - Jean Paul F. Richter

"If I know what love is, it is because of you." - Herman Hesse

"Once in awhile, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale." - anonymous quotation

"Till I loved I never lived—enough." - Emily Dickenson

"O happy hours when I may once more encircle within these arms the dearest object of my love- when I shall again feel the pressure of that 'aching head' which will delight to recline upon my bosom, when I may again press to my heart which palpitates with the purest affection that loved one who has so long shared its undivided devotion." - Alexander Hamilton Rice
"The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman's heart." - Josiah G.

COMFORTING LOVE QUOTATIONS

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Words that heal a heart

"Just because someone doesn't love you in the way you want them to, doesn't mean that they don't love you with all they've got. " - author unknown

"For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it. " - Ivan Panin

"Even a very small degree of hope is enough to cause the birth of love." - Stendhal

"You may only be one person to the world, but you may also be the world to one person." - Anonymous

"We learn only from those we love." - Johann Von Eckermann

"My advice to you is not to inquire why or whither, but just enjoy your ice cream while it is on your plate." - Thornton Wilder

"I asked professors who teach the meaning of life to tell me what is happiness/ And I went to famous executives who boss the work of thousands of men/ They all shook their heads and gave me a smile/ As though I were trying to fool with them/ And then one Sunday afternoon I just wandered out, along the Des Plaines River/ And I saw a crowd of Hungarians under the trees/ With their women and children and a keg of beer and an accordian." - Carl Sandburg

LOVE QUOTES

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"One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love." -

"Attention is the most basic form of love; through it we bless and are blessed." -

"We love because it's the only true adventure." -

"Love is like quicksilver in the hand.

Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away." - Dorothy Parker

"Love is friendship set on fire." - unknown

"Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe

"To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia." - H.L. Mencken

"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more." - Erica Jong

"Sometimes love is stronger than a man's convictions." - Isaac Bashevis Singer

"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness." - Oliver Wendell Holmes

"Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it." - Robert Mitchum

"Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside." - Margaret Walker

"Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature." - Howard Thurman

"Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end." - Anonymous

"Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other." - Rainer Maria Rilke

"Where love is, no room is too small." - Talmud

"Loves makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." - Zora Neale Hurston

"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." - Mark Twain

"Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day." - Nicholas Sparks

"To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven." - Karen Sunde

"A love song is just a caress set to music." - Sigmund Romberg

"Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." - Peter Ustinov

"Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever." - unknown

"Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence." - Erich Fromm

"In the final analysis, love is the only reflection of man's worth." - Bill Wundram, Iowa Quad Cities Times

"Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile." - Elizabeth Browning

"Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song, A medley of extemporanea; And love is a thing that can never go wrong; And I am Marie of Roumania." - Dorothy Parker

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."

Tips for Finding Romance Without Leaving Home

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Romance needn’t be limited to honeymoons and romantic getaways. With a little effort, you can fill your home with romance whenever you the mood strikes you. Adding romance at home can be as simple as changing your routine, taking something you do all the time and doing it in a new way.

Eat dinner by the fireplace instead of the kitchen. Or linger over breakfast in bed. Drink from your best crystal instead of your everyday glasses. Sleep under the stars instead of in the bedroom. Take a shower… together.

Heat Up Your Home
Take a look around. There are many ways to heat things up and fill your home with romance. Play soft music during dinner, add flowers to the dining room table and candles everywhere. Turn your bedroom into an intimate hideaway. (This doesn't have to be expensive or difficult. Sometimes just tidying up makes a difference.) Try a new bedspread or fresh thick towels for the bath. Install a dimmer switch to create seductive lighting.
Follow a Five-Step Plan for a Perfect Night of Passion
With a little planning you can have one of those Big Nights right at home. Set aside an evening for just the two of you, and follow these simple steps:
1. Remove the distractions. If you have young children, arrange for a family member or close friend to take care of them for the night. And turn off the TV – it's the number one destroyer of romance.

2. Issue an Invitation. "Invite" your partner to spend a private evening with you – a note on attractive paper is just right for that invitation. Be a little mysterious. For example, “Would you please set aside Saturday night for me… I have something in mind for us.” Make sure the invitation says where to meet you (the bedroom) and what time.

3. Set the stage. Prepare or purchase your favorite foods and drinks, and arrange them in the bedroom. Put on soft music and light some candles. To add to the mystery, suggest that your partner get dressed in another room.

4. Plan an Ice Breaker. When your partner shows up, you’ll want a way to get you both in the mood. For some couples it’s an invitation to dance (very slowly), for other couples it’s a romantic board game or a sexy movie. You know what your partner enjoys, so go ahead and indulge.

5. Extend the magic. Provide a “thank you” note at breakfast. There’s nothing more romantic than your partner knowing how appreciated he or she is.

keeping love

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"Finding and keeping love is not just a romantic idea; it's crucial to our intact survival."
"Relationships pave the way for us to recapture our wholeness by correcting the distortions of care taking and socialization that distanced us from our original selves (when just born). It is in unconditional loving our partner, making it safe for them to open to love, letting that love sink in over time so that trust can build, that allows their fullness to come back into being, so they can feel their oneness (like the baby in the womb), their totality

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Scientific Answers
Researchers (Hatfield & Rapson, 1995) have broken up love into two main types:
Passionate love which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions.
Companionate love is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you.
Now one of the best known theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact) is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.
The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are:
Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.
Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.
Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).
Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.
Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.
Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.
Now Sternberg also uses his Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked questions about love:
Is there love at first sight?
This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). Sternberg calls this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.
Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time?
This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.
Can their be love without sex?
Ah yes, companionate love, where intimacy and commitment are present without any sexual passion.
Why doesn't romantic love last?
Passion and intimacy without commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy wanes, the relationship ends.
This a close friend sent me e-mail:
Infatuation vs. Love
Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another.
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.
Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away. Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying. But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.
Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing them."
Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.
Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.
Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.
Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.
Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart. Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning.
The secret of our being is not only to live but to have something to live for.

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Combined pressure from Rivers State government of Nigeria and some prominent Ijaw leaders forced the release of Baby Margaret Hill, the three-year-old British girl abducted last week.The little girl, who was kidnapped Thursday last week near her school in Port Harcourt Nigeria by five gunmen, was let go on Sunday night by her abductors. It was gathered that government officials and the negotiators, after sizing up the hostage-takers, realized that they were ransome-seekers and went into several hours of negotiations with them. The kidnappers, whose identities remained unknown, were said to have further been put under pressure by some notable indigenes of the Niger Delta who warned of the consequences of their action, including a possible raid on their hide-out. Little Margaret was said to have been released at about 10.00 p.m. She was handed over at the Ogbakiri town, in Emuohua. Prior to the release, her parents, Mike and Oluchi Hill, had met Governor Omehia in Port Harcourt for nearly an hour during which time the governor assured them that everything would be done to ensure the release of their baby. The parents, during the talks with Omehia, reportedly broke down and shed tears uncontrollably."I know how you feel since your daughter was taken some days ago and we share your agony. The government and people of Rivers State are with you in these agonizing moment of your life and we pray that it comes to an end soon," Omehia had told them.With the release of Margaret on Sunday, the governor’s prayer has come to pass. Speaking on the incident on Monday the Chief Press Secretary to the State Governor, Mr. Emma Okah, told Daily Sun that the baby was set free without payment of any ransome even though the kidnappers had initially demanded a whopping N50 million pay off. "They kept going down during the negotiation until it got to N3 million and the government eventually made it clear that it was not ready to pay for the girl’s release," he said.Mr. Okah said the kidnappers were later given an ultimatum to release the girl just as some Ijaw leaders mounted pressure and warned them that they risked an attack. "It was the combined pressure that forced them to release the child without getting a kobo," Okah said. It would be recalled that during a courtesy call on Governor Celestine Omehia, at the weekend, the Inspector General of Police, Mr. Mike Okiro, suggested that hostage-takers in the Niger Delta region should be regarded and treated as criminals. Okiro who alleged that most of those involved in the ignoble act are non-indigenes of the region, said the perpetrators were doing so for selfish interests and warned that the police would no longer tolerate the ugly trend. "We cannot allow a situation where people have been complaining about marginalization and now that government has woken up and wants to do something about the situation, some people are going against what the government is planning", he said.The leader of the Niger Delta Peoples Volunteer Forces (NDPVF), Alhaji Mujaheed Asari-Dokubo had like many other people criticized the action. He descridbed the abductors as criminals rather than freedom fighters.

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